If I may, I think what many here are saying, or try to say (and sometimes comes across as rude - not suggesting the most recent was, or wasn't) lies in the consistency of asking for an update, not the fact that someone is asking for one.
Simply put, it's how often people are requesting updates that many are discouraging. I think everyone needs to calm down in every aspect of the "when". Too many post result in bickering from it.. Not directing this toward anyone specific, just something I've noticed around the threads over some time now. Be nice to each other in your responses.